Kids

Dusty

Kids.  Oh kids.  People talk about the gigantic, life changing event that was the birthing of their child.  Well I didn't have it...and I feel guilty.  It seems like all my friends are having kids and when I ask them how they feel now that they're home and healthy I get the same answer: "Dude it changed my life, I'm so blessed, he/she is the greatest thing that's ever happened to me." hmm..I just smile and congratulate them.  The duck on the water that is my brain tries to stay cool on the outside while I'm churning on the inside.  My mind reels:

As a mom...

So this post is more of a random rant...

As a mom it is hard to turn on and off that feeling of "damn I wanna fuck the brains outta my husband" vs the "what do you need, how can I get it, clean up, wipe up, pick up..."

Spontaneity

Gosh I was just thinking how great it would be to be able to have some time to use some toys to myself. Dusty is fun to play with too, but sometimes a little afternoon delight with me, myself, and vibe is fun too. The deal though is, I must plan. With kids and lots of things to get done through out the day time is never on my side. I feel like planning a little vibe time into my schedule is a little weird. I feel like vibrator time should be more spontaneous. Heck sex seems like it should be more of a spontaneous thing.

Sex After Baby

Baby's needs are first. But the moment he falls asleep, we get to spending time together. It isn't always about the sex, more about being with each other, talking, touching. Sex is more of a large bonus. We'll run it through for you all.

Body after baby and sex

After giving birth, I felt fat. It wasn't pregnancy fat, more like hanging fat from all parts of my body. I didn't have a pregnancy belly to show off or hide behind. It sucked, all the clothes I wore during pregnancy were too big or didn't fit right. And all the clothes I wore before pregnancy were still to small. I felt disgusting. I was now in pain while sitting down, my breasts were sore from breast feeding and pumping. I had stretch marks running on my thighs, hips, boobs, and stomach. My belly button was sore from being stretched so far while pregnant and then popped back after giving birth. Yikes with this list of issues, how could Dusty still want to look at me naked? I felt gross and it was hard to come to terms with my new look. I was still in no shape to have my boobs bouncing while I run, and god forbid my floppy fresh after birth crotch fall loose while I run! Yikes I just wanted to look and FEEL sexy for my husband. The only way I could do that was to figure out how I truly felt about me and come up with a plan.

Sex and Marriage After Baby

We will be writing more about our experiences with sex and marriage after baby and/or babies. We are excited to share our own thoughts, and we would love to hear from everyone else.